I straddle both sides of the fence too. Nice to meet you!

I’m a guy who generally always preferred to hang out with women. Though, because I’m indigo*, I don’t hang out with many people, I’m too sensitive to take big crowds. But the friends I have had have been generally either female or non-standard males. I’m like the girls in your dating show, I need love before I can take tough love, and I generally shy away from sports or anything seriously competitive. I know I have this masculine side to me, but it’s just not that strong.

*Indigo, sometimes known as indigo child, highly sensitive individual with spiritual leanings, loner and supreme black sheep.

I do agree that guys and girls are much, much more than stereotypes. Every time I’ve tried to identify myself with one thing or another I’ve felt myself confined and had to undo. I see people who confine themselves to a gender as very limited – they seem crippled, they’re missing out on half of life!

Andrew

Once I was on a date and told the guy that "sometimes I think I was born as a guy in a girl's body", given that I love football, hate drama, get overwhelmed at scenes with too much estrogen (Chris Daughtry concerts) and love to kick back with a beer.

He actually asked me if I had gender identity issues!! I replied with, "If you are asking if I am a transgender, NO, I am not." On a date? C'mon, give me a break!

@Matthew, haha! I’m watching Tough Love right now, the girls are all starting to cry, though, and that’s a little much for me. I think you are taking an important step in breaking down the stereotypes and setting up controversy!

You’ve risen above stereotypes and instead of doing and saying what you’re ‘supposed’ to do, your living your life the way you want to live it. If that means beer and darts at the bar over shopping and gossip – so be it. I’m really excited to read this series as it develops.

And two things. One, I’ve got some ‘controversy’ coming up in the not TOO distant future at my blog, so I will be taking my own advice in stepping outside of my comfort zone, and two – I’m watching Tough Love right now. As a guy, does that make me cross stereotypes when I admit I watch these VH1 reality shows?

Paul (Dad for folks new to the Webb!) – That is a very good point. I hadn’t really thought about it that way, but agree very much. Here’s hoping each of the “sides” can get more in touch with the other!