Comments on: Why Every Guy Needs A Girl…Friend http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/ Musings and Ramblings from a Not-So-Average Girl Next Door Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: You Are Not "One Of The Guys" - Forbes http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-40293 You Are Not "One Of The Guys" - Forbes Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:38:56 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-40293 [...] I’ve been a groom’s attendant far more than I’ve been a bridesmaid. I spend nearly every fall Sunday watching football with a group of guys while their wives and girlfriends hang out in the kitchen chatting about anything but football. Any stereotype for the idea, I’ve probably done it. [...] [...] I’ve been a groom’s attendant far more than I’ve been a bridesmaid. I spend nearly every fall Sunday watching football with a group of guys while their wives and girlfriends hang out in the kitchen chatting about anything but football. Any stereotype for the idea, I’ve probably done it. [...]

]]> By: Rocky | R O C K O N O V A. COM http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-478 Rocky | R O C K O N O V A. COM Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:05:35 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-478 hey Elisa! yea definitely awesome post! I have one bgff who I don't know what I'd do without ! hey Elisa!

yea definitely awesome post! I have one bgff who I don’t know what I’d do without !

]]> By: Melissa Blake http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-167 Melissa Blake Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:44:49 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-167 Great post! :) <br /><br />p.s. you're one of my favorite blogs on my Top 5 Blogs this week! :) Great post! :)

p.s. you're one of my favorite blogs on my Top 5 Blogs this week! :)

]]> By: Trina http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-166 Trina Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:04:49 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-166 Elisa, this post is a treat. I enjoy having male...friends around. Like you say, it helps to have someone of the opposite gender to ask those silly questions to. Example: why do you need a wing man? Things of that nature. :) Elisa, this post is a treat. I enjoy having male…friends around. Like you say, it helps to have someone of the opposite gender to ask those silly questions to. Example: why do you need a wing man? Things of that nature. :)

]]> By: Sam http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Sam Mon, 17 Aug 2009 23:56:47 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-165 This is awesome, I totally love it! You missed something though. The ideal Girl...Friend will watch sports with you because she wants to and she understands them, and she won't make you change the channel. (aka why you and I rock!) This is awesome, I totally love it! You missed something though. The ideal Girl…Friend will watch sports with you because she wants to and she understands them, and she won't make you change the channel. (aka why you and I rock!)

]]> By: RdGarnet http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-164 RdGarnet Mon, 17 Aug 2009 21:25:09 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-164 Great post!! So true!! Guys do need a Girl....Friend. But I think some are just scared they might turn into something more than a friend. <br /><br />**Standing Ovation** :) Great post!! So true!! Guys do need a Girl….Friend. But I think some are just scared they might turn into something more than a friend.

**Standing Ovation** :)

]]> By: Elisa http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-163 Elisa Mon, 17 Aug 2009 11:55:49 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-163 Rachael - Yes, I would agree that one or both parties being "unavailable" can help the whole equation. And as I mentioned, the best Boy/Girl...Friend could end up being the best Boy/GirlFriend. Again, you are supposed to marry your best friend, right? Rachael – Yes, I would agree that one or both parties being "unavailable" can help the whole equation. And as I mentioned, the best Boy/Girl…Friend could end up being the best Boy/GirlFriend. Again, you are supposed to marry your best friend, right?

]]> By: Rachael Stott http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-162 Rachael Stott Mon, 17 Aug 2009 00:39:12 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-162 Elisa I'm kind of an example of both sides of the argument. Of my close friends the majority have always been guys. Even now that I have a son he has far more 'uncles' than 'aunts'. They are far more honest and straight forward than girls.<br /><br />By the same token of my many 'boy....friends' many of them were BoyFriends for a while. My best boy...friend is now other half and father of my son.<br /><br />Guys and girls CAN be just friends especially when you aren't single - then the temptation isn't there. Elisa I'm kind of an example of both sides of the argument. Of my close friends the majority have always been guys. Even now that I have a son he has far more 'uncles' than 'aunts'. They are far more honest and straight forward than girls.

By the same token of my many 'boy….friends' many of them were BoyFriends for a while. My best boy…friend is now other half and father of my son.

Guys and girls CAN be just friends especially when you aren't single – then the temptation isn't there.

]]> By: Elisa http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Elisa Sun, 16 Aug 2009 23:55:02 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-161 Ryan - While I see your point, I would counter with the fact that if you have a Girl...Friend that is of the same close caliber that I'm describing here (not the "hey, I hang out with guys a lot" but a GOOD friend) I'd be hardpressed to agree that a SO should dictate who you are friends with. <br /><br />This could be just me (and why you are getting married in 2 months and I'm still picking up guys in supermarkets!) but if my boyfriend tried telling/urging/suggesting I choose between him and my friends, I'm pretty sure he would not like where the next convo went. I've done it before, absolutely would do it again!<br /><br />John - Hrm, that is an interesting perspective. I agree with a few of the things on your list, and obviously the fact that certain guys and girls should be friends. Not sure I agree that guys make the best friends (though they do round out my circle of friends) I think each side has some great things to offer. I'll have the list of why every girl needs a boy...friend later this week.<br /><br />Joe - True, the list isn't to say that guys DON'T offer those things. However, I don't know if it's societal or scientific, I DO know that it's sometimes tough for guys to show their "softer" side cause they "aren't supposed to." When a boy falls off his bike it's "Suck it up, you're ok" and when a girl falls off it's "Come here honey, are you ok?" I especially learned this in a summer camp environment where people almost always subconsciously did this.<br /><br />And I do think that MOST guys and girls can't be friends, or close friends as I'm alluding to. I know that some of the guys I hang out with are friends, but definitely not as close as I am to two of them. But those two ARE good friends, and they have no desire to pursue anything. Both are quite happily with others in fact. I think that sometimes a friend that we get closer to thinking it's "just friends" ends up being much more cause the attraction of friendship takes on a whole new "attraction." Or it was there from the beginning and you never wanted to admit it. I mean, you're supposed to marry your best friend, right? Ryan – While I see your point, I would counter with the fact that if you have a Girl…Friend that is of the same close caliber that I'm describing here (not the "hey, I hang out with guys a lot" but a GOOD friend) I'd be hardpressed to agree that a SO should dictate who you are friends with.

This could be just me (and why you are getting married in 2 months and I'm still picking up guys in supermarkets!) but if my boyfriend tried telling/urging/suggesting I choose between him and my friends, I'm pretty sure he would not like where the next convo went. I've done it before, absolutely would do it again!

John – Hrm, that is an interesting perspective. I agree with a few of the things on your list, and obviously the fact that certain guys and girls should be friends. Not sure I agree that guys make the best friends (though they do round out my circle of friends) I think each side has some great things to offer. I'll have the list of why every girl needs a boy…friend later this week.

Joe – True, the list isn't to say that guys DON'T offer those things. However, I don't know if it's societal or scientific, I DO know that it's sometimes tough for guys to show their "softer" side cause they "aren't supposed to." When a boy falls off his bike it's "Suck it up, you're ok" and when a girl falls off it's "Come here honey, are you ok?" I especially learned this in a summer camp environment where people almost always subconsciously did this.

And I do think that MOST guys and girls can't be friends, or close friends as I'm alluding to. I know that some of the guys I hang out with are friends, but definitely not as close as I am to two of them. But those two ARE good friends, and they have no desire to pursue anything. Both are quite happily with others in fact. I think that sometimes a friend that we get closer to thinking it's "just friends" ends up being much more cause the attraction of friendship takes on a whole new "attraction." Or it was there from the beginning and you never wanted to admit it. I mean, you're supposed to marry your best friend, right?

]]> By: Joe Budde Jr. http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/08/why-every-guy-needs-a-girl-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-160 Joe Budde Jr. Sun, 16 Aug 2009 22:50:07 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=114#comment-160 Five years ago, I probably would have agreed wholeheartedly on this topic! <br /><br />Over the past five years though, I have learned that there are guys out there who are able to be a friend to a guy while achieving all of those positive aspects of the "Girl.....Friend." I call it being a really great friend - guy or girl. <br /><br />I don't think guys can girls can be "just friends." I spent almost 2 years telling everyone that my now wife was "just a friend."<br /><br />Its just too tough to get over as, you say "Heh, boobies" or "heh, no boobies" as the case might be. ;-) Five years ago, I probably would have agreed wholeheartedly on this topic!

Over the past five years though, I have learned that there are guys out there who are able to be a friend to a guy while achieving all of those positive aspects of the "Girl…..Friend." I call it being a really great friend – guy or girl.

I don't think guys can girls can be "just friends." I spent almost 2 years telling everyone that my now wife was "just a friend."

Its just too tough to get over as, you say "Heh, boobies" or "heh, no boobies" as the case might be. ;-)

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