Comments on: Why Every Girl Needs A Guy…Friend http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/ Musings and Ramblings from a Not-So-Average Girl Next Door Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sam http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-233 Sam Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:57:45 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-233 Ben: This is awesome! You make some great points, and you're right...if I wasn't at work, I would totally jump up and run out to find myself a guy...friend! Seriously though, it's very important to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex. Although I don't really have any guy...friends like the one you describe, I have that sort of relationship with my cousin. We're the same age and we're both only children, so we fill the sibling void for each other. I'm very grateful to have him in my life. <br /><br />It seems like you're a pretty awesome friend yourself! I hope your girl...friends know just how lucky they are to have you! Ben: This is awesome! You make some great points, and you're right…if I wasn't at work, I would totally jump up and run out to find myself a guy…friend! Seriously though, it's very important to have platonic relationships with the opposite sex. Although I don't really have any guy…friends like the one you describe, I have that sort of relationship with my cousin. We're the same age and we're both only children, so we fill the sibling void for each other. I'm very grateful to have him in my life.

It seems like you're a pretty awesome friend yourself! I hope your girl…friends know just how lucky they are to have you!

]]> By: rockthehouse http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-232 rockthehouse Sun, 13 Sep 2009 18:19:43 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-232 @Grace: Platonic girl and guy relationships are indeed hard to find, but I think that is what makes the relationship great. 'Brothers/Sisters from another mother' is the way that I like to describe them, because it will eventually feel that way after a time. Thanks for the comment!<br /><br />@RdGarnet: Thanks for your agreement! I am glad that I convinced you to call your guy...friend for some beer and wings! <br /><br />@Rachel: I like the additional bullet points you have added to the conversation. Skin and bones is definitely not sexy, but that might be the topic for another entire post :) I like to see myself as a great guy...friend, glad you were able to see that! Thanks for the comment!<br /><br />@Anita: I think your point of doing better in the workplace because you have good friends of the opposite sex. I think the qualities learned from these relationships help you relate more easily in the workplace. Thanks for the compliment about doing the topic justice, I am glad you enjoyed it!<br /><br />@Elisa: Thank you for the opportunity to contribute to this topic. I had a lot of fun writing this guest post for your blog because I enjoy your writing style. Good luck with the redesign and I am looking forward to many more interesting articles here at the Webb. @Grace: Platonic girl and guy relationships are indeed hard to find, but I think that is what makes the relationship great. 'Brothers/Sisters from another mother' is the way that I like to describe them, because it will eventually feel that way after a time. Thanks for the comment!

@RdGarnet: Thanks for your agreement! I am glad that I convinced you to call your guy…friend for some beer and wings!

@Rachel: I like the additional bullet points you have added to the conversation. Skin and bones is definitely not sexy, but that might be the topic for another entire post :) I like to see myself as a great guy…friend, glad you were able to see that! Thanks for the comment!

@Anita: I think your point of doing better in the workplace because you have good friends of the opposite sex. I think the qualities learned from these relationships help you relate more easily in the workplace. Thanks for the compliment about doing the topic justice, I am glad you enjoyed it!

@Elisa: Thank you for the opportunity to contribute to this topic. I had a lot of fun writing this guest post for your blog because I enjoy your writing style. Good luck with the redesign and I am looking forward to many more interesting articles here at the Webb.

]]> By: Elisa http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Elisa Sat, 12 Sep 2009 16:59:55 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-231 Grace - I agree, as we've discussed before. A TRUE guy/girl...friend is difficult to find. But I appreciate your willingness to dare to see "what if" with a close friend. Though I preach frequently the idea that if you are supposed to marry your best friend why not date them, I don't dare to do it myself. I'd sacrifice myself for a friendship any day. *sigh*<br /><br />RdGarnet - Hope the game was good. That's one of my favorite things, beer and greasy yummy foods watching the game with my boys!<br /><br />Rachael - Ooh, those are some other good ones. I've always been a big fan of my guy...friend hugs. They are just huggier than most girls. It's like shaking hands. A lot of girls seem to be afraid to be physically agressive, some even dainty. I appreciate a firm handshake and squished bear hug. It's just the way I roll! :)<br /><br />Anita - You know, I feel that way a lot when I get around groups of women. Definitely not all the time, but women seem to want to get together and just TALK about things all the time. Analysis by paralysis. One of the greatest things with my guy...friends is the ability to just sit around and not have to make small talk. And when we want to do things, someone does them. None of this "I don't know, what do YOU think/want/etc." Grace – I agree, as we've discussed before. A TRUE guy/girl…friend is difficult to find. But I appreciate your willingness to dare to see "what if" with a close friend. Though I preach frequently the idea that if you are supposed to marry your best friend why not date them, I don't dare to do it myself. I'd sacrifice myself for a friendship any day. *sigh*

RdGarnet – Hope the game was good. That's one of my favorite things, beer and greasy yummy foods watching the game with my boys!

Rachael – Ooh, those are some other good ones. I've always been a big fan of my guy…friend hugs. They are just huggier than most girls. It's like shaking hands. A lot of girls seem to be afraid to be physically agressive, some even dainty. I appreciate a firm handshake and squished bear hug. It's just the way I roll! :)

Anita – You know, I feel that way a lot when I get around groups of women. Definitely not all the time, but women seem to want to get together and just TALK about things all the time. Analysis by paralysis. One of the greatest things with my guy…friends is the ability to just sit around and not have to make small talk. And when we want to do things, someone does them. None of this "I don't know, what do YOU think/want/etc."

]]> By: anita lobo http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-229 anita lobo Fri, 11 Sep 2009 11:45:27 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-229 Another perk:<br /> <br />Girls who grow up with guy...friends and are able to sustain that relationship in the crucial early years of our career, actually do much better at work - whether its breaking the glass ceiling or being entrepreneurs.<br /><br />I think its to do with developing the ability to work with men & women and staying focused on getting work done vs getting caught in politics + gender wars that many inexperienced people get sucked into, unwittingly!<br /><br />Great choice of topic Elisa. You & Ben have done justice to it.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Anita Lobo Another perk:

Girls who grow up with guy…friends and are able to sustain that relationship in the crucial early years of our career, actually do much better at work – whether its breaking the glass ceiling or being entrepreneurs.

I think its to do with developing the ability to work with men & women and staying focused on getting work done vs getting caught in politics + gender wars that many inexperienced people get sucked into, unwittingly!

Great choice of topic Elisa. You & Ben have done justice to it.

Cheers,
Anita Lobo

]]> By: Rachael http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-228 Rachael Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:00:07 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-228 Ben, its evident from your post that you are indeed a great Guy...friend.<br /><br />a few of my favourite Guy...friend perks that you didn't mention:<br />1) guy hugs - they are just better<br />2) they refuse to let you take yourself too seriously<br />3) they dispell myths and set us straight.i.e. they tell us the truth skin and bones isn't sexy Ben, its evident from your post that you are indeed a great Guy…friend.

a few of my favourite Guy…friend perks that you didn't mention:
1) guy hugs – they are just better
2) they refuse to let you take yourself too seriously
3) they dispell myths and set us straight.i.e. they tell us the truth skin and bones isn't sexy

]]> By: RdGarnet http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-227 RdGarnet Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:18:33 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-227 Wow! I actually agree with Ben. Thanks, now I am going to hang out with my guy friend tonight. ;) I might invite him to watch some football!! BEER AND WINGS!! :-D<br /><br />Great post!<br /><br />Elisa, great guess you brought here :) Wow! I actually agree with Ben. Thanks, now I am going to hang out with my guy friend tonight. ;) I might invite him to watch some football!! BEER AND WINGS!! :-D

Great post!

Elisa, great guess you brought here :)

]]> By: Grace Boyle http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2009/09/why-every-girl-needs-a-guy-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-226 Grace Boyle Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:08:38 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=123#comment-226 Ben, you're right this post made me miss my guy...friends and also made me crave a few more in my new home of Boulder :)<br /><br />Platonic relationships between the opposite sex are great. I just think that they're hard and few and far between. I'm such a friend person, I don't go around dating all my once guy friends, but some of my best friends have turned into long-term, serious boyfriends. It's like the When Harry Met Sally analogy (I wrote it on the Girl...friend post Elisa posted).<br /><br />Nonetheless, you've included some great points here. I'm excited to hear what others have to say! Ben, you're right this post made me miss my guy…friends and also made me crave a few more in my new home of Boulder :)

Platonic relationships between the opposite sex are great. I just think that they're hard and few and far between. I'm such a friend person, I don't go around dating all my once guy friends, but some of my best friends have turned into long-term, serious boyfriends. It's like the When Harry Met Sally analogy (I wrote it on the Girl…friend post Elisa posted).

Nonetheless, you've included some great points here. I'm excited to hear what others have to say!

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