Comments on: Red Silk with Black Lace http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/ Musings and Ramblings from a Not-So-Average Girl Next Door Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1305 Elisa Doucette Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:25:48 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1305 Welcome Tess, glad you enjoyed the post. Hope the rest keep you as engaged and entertained! Thanks for the comment and for subscribing. Welcome Tess, glad you enjoyed the post. Hope the rest keep you as engaged and entertained! Thanks for the comment and for subscribing.

]]> By: Tess The Bold Life http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1303 Tess The Bold Life Mon, 18 Jan 2010 21:21:13 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1303 Hi, Came here from Katie's blog. Loved the video, love your writing. Signed up for your updates! Hi,
Came here from Katie’s blog. Loved the video, love your writing. Signed up for your updates!

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1299 Elisa Doucette Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:54:58 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1299 Lael - I'm so sorry about your SIL (Grace, right?) And I do understand how the triviality of something as silly as FB update could cheapen the pain you, your family and your SIL went thru because of such a horrible disease. And it's bullshit and you want to reach out and grab cancer around the throat and shake it all around angrily. Because really, what other recourses do we have? I'm quick to judge on things like this a lot, so I'm definitely not without flaw in the process. On this particular one, however, I saw the virality and brilliance of social media creating a platform for progression that was quickly torn out before anyone could even stand on it. Hopefully some folks will have the thought at the back of their mind next time. And we can take the ball and TOTALLY run with it. Step Up and Stand Out, right? :) Lael – I’m so sorry about your SIL (Grace, right?)

And I do understand how the triviality of something as silly as FB update could cheapen the pain you, your family and your SIL went thru because of such a horrible disease. And it’s bullshit and you want to reach out and grab cancer around the throat and shake it all around angrily. Because really, what other recourses do we have?

I’m quick to judge on things like this a lot, so I’m definitely not without flaw in the process. On this particular one, however, I saw the virality and brilliance of social media creating a platform for progression that was quickly torn out before anyone could even stand on it. Hopefully some folks will have the thought at the back of their mind next time. And we can take the ball and TOTALLY run with it.

Step Up and Stand Out, right? :)

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1298 Elisa Doucette Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:47:08 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1298 Marian - Haha, that should be the tagline for this post! Because that's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Who gives a flying fig if it WAS just a juvenile prank or girls were doing it for less than desirable (or perhaps pure desirability) reasons. We COULD have used the opportunity to make something beautiful but so many instead chose to focus on how it just wasn't enough. Marian – Haha, that should be the tagline for this post! Because that’s EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Who gives a flying fig if it WAS just a juvenile prank or girls were doing it for less than desirable (or perhaps pure desirability) reasons. We COULD have used the opportunity to make something beautiful but so many instead chose to focus on how it just wasn’t enough.

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1297 Elisa Doucette Fri, 15 Jan 2010 01:41:41 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1297 Jennie - Aw, thanks. Glad you enjoy the prose around here. :) I was discussing the phenomenon that is social media and Facebook/Twitter early today with some folks who don't use it. Analyzing and picking apart someone's profile. Saying "See, this is why you shouldn't have Facebook." My response? "It isn't Facebook that is the problem, it's the person using it." If there were women updating their statuses JUST to be sexy and not to support and engage further discussion on the site about breast cancer research and awareness then shame on them. That was individuals cheapening the tool, not the tool being cheap. It's an unfortunate thing sometimes with engaging humans in processes. Somehow we manage to muck it up! Jennie – Aw, thanks. Glad you enjoy the prose around here. :)

I was discussing the phenomenon that is social media and Facebook/Twitter early today with some folks who don’t use it. Analyzing and picking apart someone’s profile. Saying “See, this is why you shouldn’t have Facebook.” My response? “It isn’t Facebook that is the problem, it’s the person using it.” If there were women updating their statuses JUST to be sexy and not to support and engage further discussion on the site about breast cancer research and awareness then shame on them. That was individuals cheapening the tool, not the tool being cheap.

It’s an unfortunate thing sometimes with engaging humans in processes. Somehow we manage to muck it up!

]]> By: Lael Jepson http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1295 Lael Jepson Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:45:19 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1295 Thank you so much for this post, Elisa. You totally changed my thinking about the whole bra-cancer-awareness thing on Facebook. Having lost a sister in law to breast cancer three years ago and being very active in the Susan G. Komen organization, I was offended. Silly me. When I read your comment about about "tearing down other people's ideas" and "not being good enough"...oof! Close to the bone. And so true for me. I've learned something from your post. I was too quick to judge and in that haste, missed an opportunity to celebrate a "buzz" on an issue that's near and dear to my heart. So thanks for that! Thank you so much for this post, Elisa. You totally changed my thinking about the whole bra-cancer-awareness thing on Facebook. Having lost a sister in law to breast cancer three years ago and being very active in the Susan G. Komen organization, I was offended. Silly me. When I read your comment about about “tearing down other people’s ideas” and “not being good enough”…oof! Close to the bone. And so true for me.

I’ve learned something from your post. I was too quick to judge and in that haste, missed an opportunity to celebrate a “buzz” on an issue that’s near and dear to my heart. So thanks for that!

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]]> By: Marian Schembari http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1289 Marian Schembari Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:51:20 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1289 Oh my goodness, thank you SO much for posting this - you are so right on. Sometimes shit doesn't turn out as we'd hoped, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't take advantage of the outcome. Especially when it's as kick ass as this one! So thanks for telling it like it is :) .-= Marian Schembari´s last blog ..<a href="http://marianlibrarian.com/2010/01/13/why-freelancers-should-take-a-part-time-gig/" rel="nofollow">Why Freelancers Should Take a Part-Time Gig</a> =-. Oh my goodness, thank you SO much for posting this – you are so right on. Sometimes shit doesn’t turn out as we’d hoped, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take advantage of the outcome. Especially when it’s as kick ass as this one! So thanks for telling it like it is :)
.-= Marian Schembari´s last blog ..Why Freelancers Should Take a Part-Time Gig =-.

]]> By: Elisa http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1288 Elisa Wed, 13 Jan 2010 19:57:30 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1288 Hrmm...I think that is interesting. Cause would the article have been published, discussions had and stances taken if people had never posted their bra colors as a status update? Or would this week have gone by like so many others with no one taking the time to even think about it? (Well, you just sent a Relay for Life email so *I* would have thought about it, but I'm not the average person (on so many levels!)) Hrmm…I think that is interesting. Cause would the article have been published, discussions had and stances taken if people had never posted their bra colors as a status update?

Or would this week have gone by like so many others with no one taking the time to even think about it? (Well, you just sent a Relay for Life email so *I* would have thought about it, but I’m not the average person (on so many levels!))

]]> By: Elisa http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/01/red-silk-with-black-lace/comment-page-1/#comment-1287 Elisa Wed, 13 Jan 2010 19:53:50 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=531#comment-1287 Haha, no worries! It probably didn't help that I was reading it quickly on my phone. :) I love the group! I tried joining it on my phone but it wouldn't click thru for some reason (my phone's issue, not the groups!) Can't wait to join tonight. Thank you for commending and supporting the women who updated their status and THEN having the courage and insight to take it one step further. Kudos and here's to continuing to educate and advance in our fight against cancer! Haha, no worries! It probably didn’t help that I was reading it quickly on my phone. :)

I love the group! I tried joining it on my phone but it wouldn’t click thru for some reason (my phone’s issue, not the groups!) Can’t wait to join tonight.

Thank you for commending and supporting the women who updated their status and THEN having the courage and insight to take it one step further. Kudos and here’s to continuing to educate and advance in our fight against cancer!

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