Comments on: Love Can Come From Everywhere http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/ Musings and Ramblings from a Not-So-Average Girl Next Door Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1748 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:29:18 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1748 Lauren - I also agree with Andrew's statement. I told my boss recently that I was so upset about something that happened because failure is not an option in my life. If I go, I'm going for it hard, and I'm going to accomplish it (or something close to it.) This has proven to be both extremely beneficial to me and extremely detrimental to me. May be part of the reason for my single afflictedness. Still not sure how much I'm willing to concede on that. I mean, some boy will adore my bulldog ferociousness, right?! Lauren – I also agree with Andrew’s statement. I told my boss recently that I was so upset about something that happened because failure is not an option in my life. If I go, I’m going for it hard, and I’m going to accomplish it (or something close to it.) This has proven to be both extremely beneficial to me and extremely detrimental to me. May be part of the reason for my single afflictedness.

Still not sure how much I’m willing to concede on that. I mean, some boy will adore my bulldog ferociousness, right?!

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1747 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:04:42 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1747 Sam - I'm always wary of anyone who needs to TELL me they are an "expert" or "guru." Sometimes I especially wonder who they are trying to convince! Sam – I’m always wary of anyone who needs to TELL me they are an “expert” or “guru.” Sometimes I especially wonder who they are trying to convince!

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1746 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:54:45 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1746 Andrea - Thanks, Andrew did a GREAT job writing this up for my series. Word on the street is that it was his first guest post...AND a rare appearance of his actual face instead of a haystack. I love your Tweet...I have an EXTREMELY analytical mind (like, it freaks people out a bit...) but I am also a HUGE proponent of hunches and gut instincts. Sometimes when it feels like the Universe is conspiring with/against you...well...maybe it is! Andrea – Thanks, Andrew did a GREAT job writing this up for my series. Word on the street is that it was his first guest post…AND a rare appearance of his actual face instead of a haystack.

I love your Tweet…I have an EXTREMELY analytical mind (like, it freaks people out a bit…) but I am also a HUGE proponent of hunches and gut instincts. Sometimes when it feels like the Universe is conspiring with/against you…well…maybe it is!

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1745 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:35:53 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1745 Amy - Well, I gotta say that you shouldn't DROWN your sorrows in a pint, but a pint or twelve after being stood up for a date never hurts! And you are so right, I think the most important thing to take away is that there are no sweeping generalizations to be made in matters of the heart. It's different for everyone, but that's part of what makes it so exciting! Amy – Well, I gotta say that you shouldn’t DROWN your sorrows in a pint, but a pint or twelve after being stood up for a date never hurts!

And you are so right, I think the most important thing to take away is that there are no sweeping generalizations to be made in matters of the heart. It’s different for everyone, but that’s part of what makes it so exciting!

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1744 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:20:41 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1744 I'm going to second that. Love, whether in a friendship or a romantic relationship, comes when you are open and receptive. Sure we all want to buy into the belief it comes at these adorably inopportune times or when we are completely not expecting it, but that's not always the case. What about joining clubs or teams to "make friends?" Or online dating, which is very successful for some? The movies make random opportunities become so much more because it is what we want. It makes for much more exciting and breath-taking stories. ;) I’m going to second that. Love, whether in a friendship or a romantic relationship, comes when you are open and receptive.

Sure we all want to buy into the belief it comes at these adorably inopportune times or when we are completely not expecting it, but that’s not always the case. What about joining clubs or teams to “make friends?” Or online dating, which is very successful for some?

The movies make random opportunities become so much more because it is what we want. It makes for much more exciting and breath-taking stories. ;)

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1741 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 02:02:05 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1741 Thirsty Thursdays and Frank Sinatra...you boys are killing me! :) I don't know that love "comes along" when we are least looking for it. I've spent a better part of 10 years not looking for it. Seriously, at least 5 of them I could care less if I was dating/loving/committing. I flirted a lot, got to stay on top of my game and all. But at no point during that time did anyone come rushing in to sweep me off my feet. That being said, what I think DOES happen is two-fold. The first fold involves the ease and fun of falling. When you are looking or trying or seeking it's stressful and that's just no fun at all. For either party. The second fold is the stench of pointed desperation that one can smell from hundred of feet away when you are...well...DESPERATE to be in a relationship and with someone. And let's face it, desperate is just not a pretty shade of lipstick for anyone. Thirsty Thursdays and Frank Sinatra…you boys are killing me! :)

I don’t know that love “comes along” when we are least looking for it. I’ve spent a better part of 10 years not looking for it. Seriously, at least 5 of them I could care less if I was dating/loving/committing. I flirted a lot, got to stay on top of my game and all. But at no point during that time did anyone come rushing in to sweep me off my feet.

That being said, what I think DOES happen is two-fold. The first fold involves the ease and fun of falling. When you are looking or trying or seeking it’s stressful and that’s just no fun at all. For either party. The second fold is the stench of pointed desperation that one can smell from hundred of feet away when you are…well…DESPERATE to be in a relationship and with someone.

And let’s face it, desperate is just not a pretty shade of lipstick for anyone.

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1740 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 01:46:10 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1740 Jenny - haha, yes, it seems to be the gift that coupled up people "get" to impart on their pathetically inept single friends. All the brilliant wisdom of how they met their significant others. Cause obviously we are all pod people and what worked for them will work for us. Love isn't in individual thing, it can TOTALLY be packaged up into a cookie cut mold that applies to everyone. But really, as Andrew said...we learn everything from TV and movies so I will join in the warning. :D Jenny – haha, yes, it seems to be the gift that coupled up people “get” to impart on their pathetically inept single friends. All the brilliant wisdom of how they met their significant others. Cause obviously we are all pod people and what worked for them will work for us. Love isn’t in individual thing, it can TOTALLY be packaged up into a cookie cut mold that applies to everyone.

But really, as Andrew said…we learn everything from TV and movies so I will join in the warning. :D

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1738 Elisa Doucette Sat, 13 Feb 2010 01:39:45 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1738 Emily - Sounds like the roommate knew what they were talking about! And that she liked more than just the cool car. :) Isn't it funny how those things come together and end up working out! Emily – Sounds like the roommate knew what they were talking about! And that she liked more than just the cool car. :)

Isn’t it funny how those things come together and end up working out!

]]> By: Lauren http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1724 Lauren Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:40:35 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1724 Awesome post! I can relate to much of what you're saying, "I don’t really do anything halfway. If I do something, I go for it all the way, and typically pretty enthusiastically." And I've never given much thought to the fact that people have different capacities of love - and people love differently. The trick is to find someone who loves like you do. :) .-= Lauren´s last blog ..<a href="http://theoffbeatreport.com/wordpress/2010/02/they-say-home-is-where-the-heart-is-but-what-if-your-heart-is-in-more-than-one-place/" rel="nofollow">They say home is where the heart is, but what if your heart is in more than one place?</a> =-. Awesome post!

I can relate to much of what you’re saying, “I don’t really do anything halfway. If I do something, I go for it all the way, and typically pretty enthusiastically.” And I’ve never given much thought to the fact that people have different capacities of love – and people love differently. The trick is to find someone who loves like you do. :)
.-= Lauren´s last blog ..They say home is where the heart is, but what if your heart is in more than one place? =-.

]]> By: Andrew http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/love-can-come-from-everywhere/comment-page-1/#comment-1700 Andrew Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:53:13 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=607#comment-1700 Thanks Susan! I've found that a lot of friendships and relationships start in strange places: waiting in line for a movie, on a subway ride, in a bookstore - almost anywhere! The key is just being open and receptive to other people and giving them a chance to know you. Thanks Susan! I’ve found that a lot of friendships and relationships start in strange places: waiting in line for a movie, on a subway ride, in a bookstore – almost anywhere! The key is just being open and receptive to other people and giving them a chance to know you.

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