Comments on: Loved & Lost http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/loved-lost/ Musings and Ramblings from a Not-So-Average Girl Next Door Sat, 04 Feb 2012 18:59:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Edalia http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/loved-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2029 Edalia Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:21:33 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=773#comment-2029 Hello, Thank you for the great post Irina, yours is my favorite article in the series. I truly understand how you felt because honestly I've been there. I felt ashamed with myself, family and people surround me. And after couple of months, I asked him what happened? He said he was confused. No, I couldn't accept his reasoning. But then after recovery I know he's not for me and how I deserve a much better person. I always know there's someone special out there just waiting.. All the best! :-)) Hello,
Thank you for the great post Irina, yours is my favorite article in the series.
I truly understand how you felt because honestly I’ve been there. I felt ashamed with myself, family and people surround me. And after couple of months, I asked him what happened? He said he was confused. No, I couldn’t accept his reasoning. But then after recovery I know he’s not for me and how I deserve a much better person. I always know there’s someone special out there just waiting.. All the best! :-) )

]]> By: Amy http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/loved-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2021 Amy Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:02:48 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=773#comment-2021 I agree with Jenny. It's when that person acts like their life would be better without you in it. I had that happen and I cried a lot. Then one day it did turn around, I thought to myself "If he doesn't want me in his life then you know what? That sucks for him. I am fabulous and he would only be so lucky to still have me as part of his life". There's still that little voice though that says, "but he chose to not have you in his life. He chose". It's all very frustrating. Hearing "This too shall pass" didn't make things better because the passing was never coming. Love at 23 (when I had my heart broken) is worse than puppy love. You understand more complex emotions and the idea of the white picket fence and 2.5 kids (not possible FYI science) is more of a reality than a story you tell your dolls. I'm sorry that you had to go through this, but am happy that you shared it with such openness. You are so brave for doing it, and I didn't know the guy (well I don't know you either) but it sounds like he passed up on something pretty terrific. Just remember that :) I agree with Jenny. It’s when that person acts like their life would be better without you in it. I had that happen and I cried a lot. Then one day it did turn around, I thought to myself “If he doesn’t want me in his life then you know what? That sucks for him. I am fabulous and he would only be so lucky to still have me as part of his life”. There’s still that little voice though that says, “but he chose to not have you in his life. He chose”. It’s all very frustrating.

Hearing “This too shall pass” didn’t make things better because the passing was never coming. Love at 23 (when I had my heart broken) is worse than puppy love. You understand more complex emotions and the idea of the white picket fence and 2.5 kids (not possible FYI science) is more of a reality than a story you tell your dolls. I’m sorry that you had to go through this, but am happy that you shared it with such openness. You are so brave for doing it, and I didn’t know the guy (well I don’t know you either) but it sounds like he passed up on something pretty terrific. Just remember that :)

]]> By: Jenny Blake http://www.opheliaswebb.com/2010/02/loved-lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2017 Jenny Blake Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:50:43 +0000 http://www.opheliaswebb.com/?p=773#comment-2017 Beautiful post, Irina. I started reading it before I knew it was from you, and was completely drawn in. You are someone who lives her life with passion and full of love and exploration - qualities I really admire. Just as you highlighted, the most shocking part of a breakup for me has always been the part where it feels like you are suddenly strangers - after sharing so much closeness and intimacy. Of course we all process feelings and breakups in our own way - but it doesn't hurt any less when someone's solution is to just walk away without much explanation or "turn off" as though they never cared about you in the first place. I absolutely love your last paragraph - your willingness to love hard and love again, even with the fear of pain that might follow. Thank you for being so open in this post - it's one of my favorites in the series, and I'm thrilled that you chose to share it here. .-= Jenny Blake´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2010/02/22/missing-book-story-part-2-timeline-of-events/" rel="nofollow">Life After College Book Project: The Missing Story Part 2 – Timeline of Events</a> =-. Beautiful post, Irina. I started reading it before I knew it was from you, and was completely drawn in. You are someone who lives her life with passion and full of love and exploration – qualities I really admire.

Just as you highlighted, the most shocking part of a breakup for me has always been the part where it feels like you are suddenly strangers – after sharing so much closeness and intimacy. Of course we all process feelings and breakups in our own way – but it doesn’t hurt any less when someone’s solution is to just walk away without much explanation or “turn off” as though they never cared about you in the first place.

I absolutely love your last paragraph – your willingness to love hard and love again, even with the fear of pain that might follow. Thank you for being so open in this post – it’s one of my favorites in the series, and I’m thrilled that you chose to share it here.
.-= Jenny Blake´s last blog ..Life After College Book Project: The Missing Story Part 2 – Timeline of Events =-.

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