Comments on: She Does Nothing For Me

By: David

David — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 04:23:30 +0000

Give it on her wedding day!

That’s what I would do. It’s the final send off – from the first man that ever loved her and will forever loved her.
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By: Elisa Doucette

Elisa Doucette — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:20:55 +0000

Susan – Do you think that’s part of it? What makes us adore babies and puppies and things that still have fuzz instead of fur? The gentle innocence of their affection?

In romantic love I feel like the purest actions and emotions are those based in gentle innocence. As I mentioned earlier in the series, it is that pure love that will make us move mountains for someone we love and sometimes let them go at our own sacrifice for their happiness. Much like Rich’s post on what a dog teaches about unconditional love I believe a parent’s unconditional love towards a child offers us a tiny glimpse of some of the tender moments we should seek out in our romantic relationships.

By: Elisa Doucette

Elisa Doucette — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:06:07 +0000

Amy – Yeah, you always were Dad’s favorite…

You bring up such an interesting point. Before we can even realize that we are giving back to someone, we do. Every time a baby reaches for, cries out for, laughs with, etc a parent it’s just another tug at the heartstrings tied so closely to them. They don’t have to “do” anything but what they give us is so much more than most anything we could ask for.

By: Elisa Doucette

Elisa Doucette — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:55:20 +0000

Melissa – How right you are, babies are like perfect little lumps of humanity that have yet to be tainted by the impositions of the world. They are truly works of art that we get to be a part of for a little while. There’s gotta be a reason we still think they are amazing after we change a diaper, they puke on us and keep us up all night long, right?!

By: Elisa Doucette

Elisa Doucette — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:42:12 +0000

David – I could tell you about the comedy of errors that involved getting Sam’s post here. I could include how I decided based on his request alone to extend my series so there was room for his post. I could explain that I did all this before even knowing what he was going to write about.

Instead I will just say that I don’t think Sam’s post sets the bar for this series, I think his blogging sets the bar for other bloggers.

But this isn’t about my unabashed admiration for Sam’s writing or outlook on life. It’s about the beautiful post I couldn’t have even asked for but got in return. Unconditional love is such a beautiful thing, such a gift that we get to not only receive but also give it. The warm fuzziness that blankets us when we are part of the unconditional equation is amazing. To me it is proof positive that love exists on Earth.

And I agree on the printing the post idea too. A 16th birthday present or graduation or something. It’ll be a beautiful gift.

By: Susan Pogorzelski

Susan Pogorzelski — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:55:05 +0000

Sam: I think this post may be one of my favorites of the series thus far. It’s beautifully written but, what’s more, the sentiment behind it inspiring. I don’t have real children of my own yet, but, like David, I have something to care for in a little four-legged mutt who exudes the innocence and love that you describe in your daughter. Riley can’t do anything for me. He howls, he begs for food, and I sometimes have to walk him in the early hours of the morning. The responsibility in taking care of him isn’t half as that of a child, though it might be similar. And while he is “only a dog,” this dog has given me the greatest gift of learning how to love something unconditionally, and learning how to allow myself to be loved unconditionally in return.

All that said, if I feel this way towards an animal, I can only imagine what the magnitude of that love will be when I have a child of my own. In both cases, I think this gentle innocence makes you realize what’s important and how to love — how to really love. Incredible.

An absolutely beautiful post, Sam. Best wishes to you and your family.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:39:34 +0000

I got a little misty eyed reading this. It was truly beautiful. Sam, I am a poster child of a Daddy’s girl. Have been my whole life. I thought that I didn’t really do much for my dad when I was younger because well, I couldn’t. I was a gross wiggly blob that couldn’t pay bills. But my dad explained to me one day that I did more for him than I could ever imagine. I loved him unconditionally and I needed him. It’s been explained to me that the feeling a parent gets when their kid is crying and they are the only one who can calm them down is unequal to anything. And as she gets older, you’ll be the one to wipe tears when a boy hurts her, you’ll be the one she looks up to as to what kind of person she should be. She needs you no doubt, but now that you have her and from who you’ve said, it sounds like you need her too Congrats!!
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By: Sam Davidson

Sam Davidson — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:56:40 +0000

Hey Melissa: I like what you said. “Unmodified art.” Nice touch!
Sam Davidson´s last blog ..The Family We Have

By: Sam Davidson

Sam Davidson — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:55:56 +0000

Thanks, David, for the very kind words. You’re right: lots of things can make us realize what unconditional love is. And although it’s cliche, I really do show pictures of her to complete strangers.
Sam Davidson´s last blog ..The Family We Have

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 03:12:23 +0000

Sigh . . . Even reading about a baby leaves you breathless. They are our unmodified art of what being human is truly about. Love it! Congratulations!
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